Welcome guests, today is the BIG Day!
The dress, the cake, the guests it’s all together and now it is showtime.
How do we start the big day? It is not about the makeup, the hair, the shaving or the lint rolling of the tux. We need to start the day off in prayer!
I am sure that you have seen some beautiful photos of a bride and groom holding hands back to back around a door taking the time to pray. This is a beautiful depiction of keeping God at the center of your marriage right from the beginning. That prayer is important to this big day because we are about to witness two becoming one, but wait – we are also about to witness a separation that is just as important.
As the groom stands at the alter waiting for his beautiful bride, she suddenly appears on the arm of her father or another person who holds a great position in her life. Why do we do this? Why is this part of the marriage ceremony? A bit of old school history, back in the day it symbolized the woman going from being the “property” of her parents to the becoming the “property” of her husband. In other words, Dad says, “Here you go Jacob, we will love and support this union and you are now responsible for and obligated to our daughter and her needs.” It is a transfer of responsibility. So in our Christian walk, what does this mean to us? Let’s look at these verses:
Genesis 2:24 New International Version
24 That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.
Ecclesiastes 4:9-12 New International Version
9 Two are better than one,
because they have a good return for their labor:
10 If either of them falls down,
one can help the other up.
But pity anyone who falls
and has no one to help them up.
11 Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm.
But how can one keep warm alone?
12 Though one may be overpowered,
two can defend themselves.
A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.
Matthew 19:5-7New International Version
5 and said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh 6 So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.”
Do you see the separation? A man (son) will leave his parents and become one with his wife. She is also leaving the support of her parents. They are now going to care for one another. They are going to be helpers for each other, they are going to be there for one another in all things WITH God. Christ loves his church, that is his bride, it is a union that cannot be broken. A husband and wife are entering into a union with one another that is just as serious because God is at the center of that union.
As the journey of marriage continues there are many things that will come about that try to destroy that union. Some things will be blatant and obvious, others will creep in like a thief in the night. What needs to be remembered is that the two of you are better and stronger together, but only if you are relying on God. Again, God must be the center of your marriage. In moments of joy and moments of hardship, there will be one constant, God. His love, his guidance and his protection will remain but it is up to you, before you take your vows and in all the years to come, to put him first.
Enjoy the Big Day! In our next blog post we will visit the BIG night!