Welcome to the first blog in our marriage series. Today’s blog will take a look at asking for her hand in marriage. Walk with me as we begin our journey into marriage.
Today, you are sitting there absolutely smitten by the woman beside you. Each time you look at her you are overwhelmed with love. You are captivated by her beauty, you are amazed by her thoughts and you feel completely and totally in love with her heart. You are in love with who she is and who she may one day become. You cannot imagine a world without her, you cannot wait to spend the rest of your life with her. You tell yourself there has to be a way to show her and the world how much you love her. You decide you are going to ask this beautiful woman to marry you.
Sounds perfect doesn’t it? Find the love of your life, decide she is the one and marry her, simple right?…Wrong….Not so simple.
First and foremost, let’s talk about who she is and where her road to you first began. Regardless of that beautiful woman’s circumstances, whether she comes from a traditional family where her parents are still together today or a broken home, her road to you began with HIM.
God created the beautiful woman you are in awe of today. God presented her to her mother, her parents by “knitting” together every single fiber of her being.
Psalm 139: 13-14 (NIV)
13 For you created my inmost being;
you knit me together in my mother’s womb.
14 I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
your works are wonderful,
I know that full well.
Reread the verse above, it is packed with a lot of important messages. Many of those lovely messages tell you that because of who God is, your precious love is wonderfully made; intricately woven together. We praise God for this work, we praise him for loving us so much that he would create this beautiful soul. Do not neglect the presentation of this beautiful woman though.
She has been presented by him to her parents. In society some people say our children are ours until the are 18 and that is it, but many traditional families understand the love just increases with the addition of new family members. During those first 18 years of life though, someone was fully responsible for protecting, feeding, nurturing and “growing” that woman into parts of who that woman is today. To be a mother or a father, a parent, you understand that this work of art began with a choice that they made and God saw that and had plans for this child.
You have made a choice to ask for her hand so what happens next? Is it merely a question that you only ask her, because it is her choice? Some would say yes, but I would like to gently remind you of something. You chose to ask her for her hand, but someone, no matter the circumstances poured a part of themselves into the one you love today. Perhaps even if it seems “old-fashioned” consider respectfully and graciously asking her parents for their daughter’s hand before you ask her. Allow her parents to bask in the joy that you have chosen this beautiful woman who began her life in her mother’s womb. Show them that you respect and are thankful for the work that they have put in to help shape and mold her into the woman you have grown to love.
Be Blessed Today. May God light your way as you choose God, love and marriage.