I recently listened to an interview with a married couple and they were asked, “Do you go to bed angry?” The wife laughed and she said “all the time, I don’t like to talk when I am angry.” Her husband said nothing.
After the interview, I wondered what he was thinking in his silence. There is a good chance that he disagreed with the idea of going to bed angry.
Read the verse below.
Ephesians 4:26-27New International Version (NIV)
26 “In your anger do not sin”. Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, 27 and do not give the devil a foothold.
We see very clearly that holding onto anger can be dangerous. It can cause us to sin and can give the devil a foothold. So is being angry wrong? No, being angry is a natural emotion that we all experience. How we react to our angry emotions is where we can run into problems. First of all, God understands that sinful behavior can occur because of emotions and he commands us not to sin when we are angry. There are many different things we can do to vent without sinning but I highly recommend PRAYING!!! Believe in the power of prayer. You may be thinking, when I am angry I can’t even speak….you don’t have to speak! Remember that God knows your heart, simply call his name over and over in your heart until you are calm.
God also gives somewhat of a timeline about anger. He does not want us to hold grudges or anger against one another. God is a God of peace, that means we have to let go. Don’t stay angry. Here are a couple of things to consider, how would you feel if angry words were the last words you spoke to someone you love? You can also ask yourself, will this matter a year from now? Find ways to remind yourself that you are in control of your reactions.
The devil will do whatever he can to separate us from one another, that is his “job”. To kill, steal and destroy. That includes our relationships with one another. Victory can be found in Jesus Christ! You can overcome anger, you can defeat the devil and his schemes by wearing the armor of God. Stand up to the devil by claiming PEACE over your life.
Like the husband in the interview, we are not in control of the reactions of others. He cannot force his wife to go to bed in peace but he can remain in peace for himself. We do not need to open doors for the devil to tear our relationships or our own souls apart.
*Comments Challenge* Think about your reactions to anger, how you would like to change your reactions?